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You are here: Home / Christian Deliverance Ministry / Is a Spirit of Perfection Ruining Your Life?

Is a Spirit of Perfection Ruining Your Life?

By Phyllis Tarbox

perfectionism ruin life Are you a person who treats their “to do” list like a Bible?

Do you blow up when you are interrupted, or plans change suddenly?

Are truth and order your highest priorities?

Excellence is essential, perfectionism is not!

Several years back I had a client come in struggling with perfectionism to the point of suicidal thoughts. Her “to do” list was lengthy, and she was over scheduling her time.  She worked two jobs helped her mother run the home by watching her younger siblings and was attending college.  She left herself with no room to breathe and felt guilty at the end of the day when she failed to complete her assignments.  She was tired, overwhelmed, and struggling with spirits of death that wanted to kill her.

As a child, she was left in charge of her little sister.  Her mother had health problems, and she had to learn at age 7 to be the “other mother” in the house.  This was the entry point for a “little girl” spirit of perfection that came in seeking the approval of her parents through striving.

When clients come in struggling with these spirits of perfection, during deliverance, we will see them manifest like a child before exiting.

Demons that gain access to your soul at a young age will often take on the personality of that age. We believe these spirits enter as the traumatized child dissociates, seeks to hide or lets someone else (a demon) take the abuse. Hence, the legal right for the demon to stay is often not addressed

I’ve seen this scenario over and over in my office. Heavy responsibilities leave a child overwhelmed. They strive to survive.  Without ability or direction, they live with constant fear of failure and punishment.  Perfectionism takes root and produces failure and despair.

I’ve written about the 10 signs of perfection in an earlier article, but I sense they are worthy of a reminder.

10 Tell Tale Signs of Perfectionism

  1. Your desire to be perfect results in anger and guilt when you fall short of your goal.
  2. You set unrealistic standards for yourself to feel accepted and worthwhile.
  3. You judge others by the same standards you set for yourself.
  4. You get angry when people or situations interrupt your timing or goals.
  5. You are afraid your imperfections disappoint God and those around you.
  6. You believe you are always right.
  7. Your thinking is black and white. There is no middle ground for compromise.
  8. You are strongly opinionated, and when others disagree with your opinion, it angers you.
  9. You are incredibly organized and self-controlled until something or someone interferes with your organization and causes anger that throws you into confusion.
  10. You are hurt by others who do not treat you with the same perfect concern that you set as a goal for dealing with

If this sounds all too familiar, its likely time that you reached out for help.  I see this as a growing concern among many of my clients, and it’s time for that spirit of perfection to go.


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