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A Spirit of Theft Steals Your Time

By Phyllis Tarbox

spirit theft steals

“I feel so much guilt over all the time I’ve wasted.”
“I made a mistake years ago, and it cost me my dream.”
“It is too late for me. I am too old.”

A spirit of theft steals your time to steal your purpose.

Time belongs to God. Guilt over lost time belongs to the devil.

A Personal Reflection

I was thinking about time and how uniquely God used it the other day. I was saved at 14 and had a plan at 17, but I didn’t see it manifest until I was 57. Instead, I wandered for 40 years allowing sinful distractions to steal my time.  I always knew one day I would be on National Television.

However, when we filmed “Fighting Satan” for Lisa Ling under High Definition cameras, my 50 somethings were almost gone, and so was my youthful glow. I remember my daughter saying as we watched the premiere, “Mom, now is not a good time to meltdown over your wrinkles.”Children have a way of bringing you quickly back to reality! There is a roomful of people watching you.

It was then that I thought, God is no respecter of time. The plan he had was still waiting for me even after 40 years. So in 2014, I wrote out my vision complete with a bucket list that seemed impossible. (If you need help writing your vision, I would suggest the book by Myles Monroe called “The Power of Vision”) Within seven years, from age 58 to 65, I saw all but one thing accomplished.

It’s a big thing, and I now see it forming. God does not care if you are 22 or 65! It is never too late! He will rapidly move on your behalf when you surrender in obedience.

A Spirit of Theft

A demon of theft resides under the stronghold of lying and works closely with the spirit of fear. Theft relies on insecurity, inadequacy, and inferiority to keep you bound under the lie that you are not worthy of God’s call on your life.

God even encouraged Joshua to be strong and courageous, not terrified and discouraged. Joshua knew the giants were waiting for him on the other side of the Jordan. The facts were the facts. Taking back the land was not going to be easy. The enemy had extended their stay in the wilderness from 11 days to 40 years by using fear.

How long has that spirit of theft kept you on the wrong side of the river? Does the enemy have you convinced you are not worthy enough to take back what was stolen from you? God’s truth was revealed when Rahab said to one of the spies:

I know the Lord has given you this land,” she told them. “We are all afraid of you. Everyone in the land is living in terror. (Joshua 2:9 NLT)

The demons in the kingdom of darkness were melting in fear!

Once caught, the demon of theft must restore sevenfold all it has stolen (Prov. 6:31). When defeated, the weapons of their warfare were found, and those weapons were used for seven years of provision. (Ezekiel 39:9-10)

It is time to go retrieve the spoils of war!

My story aligns perfectly with this timing for plunder.

When I woke up with the Holy Spirit and recognized the spirit of theft, I immediately went through deliverance. Everything accelerated in my life. Deliverance can restore what was stolen and advance you to where you should be in time. Do not circle the mountain in the desert again this year. Cross over. The enemy is afraid of you! God is waiting for you. Together you can pursue, overtake and recover all!

Filed Under: Featured Post Slider, Spiritual Warfare Tagged With: resisting spirits, theft

What is at the Root of Obsessive/Compulsive Thinking?

By Phyllis Tarbox

root obsessive compulsive thinking

“I am sick, and I will never get better. My life has no hope.”
“What if I die young and never get to see my children grow up?”
“I made a mistake, so now I am condemned to the consequences.”

The lie at the root of your fear is now an idol driving obsessive/compulsive thinking.

There is a lot to that statement, so let’s break it down.

At the root of obsessive/compulsive thinking is a lie.  Something you have agreed to that does not line up with the truth of God’s word.  The facts of your current circumstance are not the defining truth for your future. Demons use facts to magnify an anthill until it looks like a mountain.  It is the nature of these devils to lie.  Anything you let consume your thoughts obsessively is an idol keeping you from God.  Let me give you an example

A Client Story

A client told me she had to go back to the doctor due to something seen on her mammogram.  Her mother died of breast cancer.  That reality was all the enemy needed to convince her she was under a generational curse, and she was dying.  Thoughts of death swirled in her head daily until she came to my office saying, “It’s time for me to die.  My life is over.”

That may seem like an extreme conclusion, but the “what if” worrier runs way ahead of God.  Worry takes you out from your umbrella of grace given for today. Instead, it clobbers you with scary scenarios of your future. Grace is like manna; you only get enough for today.

Let’s go back to my original statement: the lie at the root of your fear is now an idol driving obsessive/compulsive thinking.  People don’t think of infirmity as an idol, but it has a loud voice.  Pain screams over the truth of your healing.  Dread that accompanies sickness brings hopelessness and wants you to fall into apathy, so you give up like my client. Demons network to kill, steal and destroy.

A spirit of legalism is the golden child demons use to bring in self condemnation.  They remind you this problem began with a mistake you made.  They convince you it’s all your fault, and now you are condemned with no way out, but God is a deliverer.  He never abandons his children.  He knows the plans he has for you, and there is hope for your future. (Jer. 29:11)

Idols cause you to rehearse the lies until they become your truth.  It is a process of deception that demons employ to get you to disagree with God’s word.

You can’t drink from the cup of the Lord and the cup of demons. You can’t feast at the table of the Lord and feast at the table of demons. (1 Cor. 10:21 TPT)

The word “feast” in this passage also means to participate, which is the Greek word metaecho, or to “echo with.”  In other words, you can’t feast at the table of the Lord in Psalm 23 with your head anointed with oil and your cup of joy running over if you repeat the lies of the enemy.

That kind of repetition makes you the feast of demons who use sharp steak knives of anxiety, dread, and self-condemnation to chew on you.

Filed Under: Christian Counseling, Featured Post Slider Tagged With: fear, mind battles, religious

Demonic Deception That Leads to Anxiety

By Phyllis Tarbox

demonic deception anxietyThere is an art to the deception that is fundamental to the demonic kingdom. Deception is the “process” that Satan uses to cause you to disagree with the promises of God and obsess over a lie.

Let that sink in for a minute.

Allowing the enemy’s lies to become your narrative makes you a food source for demons of anxiety. You have the authority to decline the invitation to stress by refusing to rehearse the outcome the demonic realm has pictured for you by trusting God. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Christian Deliverance Ministry, Featured Post Slider, Uncategorized

Preparing for Deliverance? You’ve Poked a Hornets Nest

By Don Ibbitson

“You won’t believe what happened to me since I was in here last!”

Our counselors often hear that refrain from clients who come in again after the initial interview session. Many are amazed at how events have conspired to dissuade them from coming in for the help they need.

There are no coincidences in the kingdom of God. Those who understand the nature of deliverance ministry and the ways of the demonic realm are best positioned for victory. [Read more…]

Filed Under: Christian Deliverance Ministry, Featured Post Slider Tagged With: discerning spirits

Help! I’m Married to a Narcissist!

By Phyllis Tarbox

help married narcissist

“Whenever I challenge my spouse, he/she tells me I am crazy and turns it all back on me.”
“My spouse’s controlling behavior leaves me confused and questioning myself.”
“I have no voice in this marriage. I am a shadow of who I once was.”

If you are married to a narcissist, you’ve probably screamed these words over and over.

There are demonic spirits behind what the secular world calls narcissism that make you feel like you are going crazy. These demons hold up a mirror and reflect themselves on their victims to keep them off-balance. The ringleader is the blame-shifting spirit of insanity. It creates chaos and revels in confusion.

Narcissists are generally incapable of sacrificial love. Behind the ruling spirit of insanity is selfishness. They typically are raised by an abusive parent who controlled them with harsh punishment. These individuals learned first to shift blame as a defense mechanism to remain safe. This lying to protect themselves is at the root of hiding that formed a lifestyle of lies. Many narcissists maintain a secret life outside of marriage.

In an earlier article, I outlined the spirits behind narcissism and how to bind them so you can see the truth. Because there are so many demons manipulating the narcissist, it makes spiritual warfare an exhaustive practice, but not impossible. The devils are difficult to discern because of what the secular world calls “gaslighting.”

Gaslighting is a form of manipulation that occurs in abusive relationships. It is an insidious, and sometimes covert, type of emotional abuse where the bully or abuser makes the target question their judgments and reality

What does “Gaslighting” by a Narcissist Spiritually Look Like?

  1. Spirits of insanity like others to think you are the crazy one. They destroy your credibility at every chance in front of others to make you look unstable and emotional to conceal their abuse.
  2. Spirits of control demand authority, so you will begin to question yourself. You go in with a strong case and come out full of doubt. Clients tell me they can’t think straight in the presence of the controller. This fog is evidence of a stupor spirit operating with mind-binding and double-mindedness. In the spirit realm, it looks like an octopus wrapped around your head, releasing its ink into the water to blind and confuse you.
  3. Narcissists discount your feelings as unimportant. They call you “too sensitive” or accuse you of having an overactive imagination. They will often back out of a conversation operating with spirits of sarcasm as a self-defense mechanism.
  4. Word-twisting spirits make you the problem. “Surely you imagined that. It must have been a difficult day, and you are confused.” They deny all responsibility and make themselves out to be the good guy because they were trying to help you.
  5. If confronted, spirits of self-pity will try to manipulate your emotions. If that ploy doesn’t work, demonic spirits of anger and revenge strike back with force.

If you have found yourself married to a Narcissist, the best thing you can do before confronting them is to bind these spirits and loose a spirit of truth. Binding and loosing are always done right before a conversation, out loud, and never in front of the person.

If you need help to come out of the fog and begin to feel like yourself again, contact us. What you can see cannot control you.

Filed Under: Featured Post Slider, Spiritual Warfare, Uncategorized Tagged With: selfishness

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